Wednesday, December 15, 2010

That's What Friends Are For!

About a year ago, Richie and I got our feelings hurt over a little incident with some friends. I haven't had to deal with these people since then until a few days ago. And I was regretting it. I wanted to go to the function, but I didn't want to at the same time. But, I decided to brave the night--with a little help from my friends. You see, what's funny is that after that incident a year ago, I swore off friends completely. I was DONE. I was tired of being hurt, tired of being used, and tired of being tired. But, then one night, I found myself just praying--God, bring some girlfriends in my life. Ones that I can trust. Ones that I can depend on. Ones that are friends with me FOR me and not some other reason. I really didn't think about that prayer again for about 6 months. Then, one day I was driving along and it hit me--God had answered my prayer! I think I almost didn't believe God would answer my prayer. Not because he wouldn't or couldn't, but because I didn't know if I could ever trust another person in a friendship again.
So, fast forward to the other night....God has blessed me with some great gals in my life! They listen, they love, they are the best! Laura came by the night before to "check my outfit". She stopped her evening, drove over, and helped me put together the cutest outfit! Then, I get a text from Mer the night of the function about hour before it's supposed to begin. I was a little apprehensive as I was getting ready, but then I read her text and smiled and cried at the same time! Her text said, "Have so much fun tonight! Remember you are very pretty and super sweet and no one can take that away from you. Now go work that room! :)"
Then, Angela (Kyle's wife), sent me one and it said, "Good luck tonite! Keep that head held high girl! I'll b thinkn of ya!" (Can I just pause here and say that I have the greatest step-mom for my kiddos??)
And you know what? I had a great time the other night! I had been only concentrating on a few negative people that would be there and forgot the other 30 plus people who were there that are great folks! It's funny that when you concentrate on the negative, things tend to become negative, but when you focus on the positive, the perspective is completely different!
And thank you Tonia for holding my hand, your smiles, and words of encouragement. You are great too!
So, a year later, thank you Lord, for that "incident". Thank you for helping me learn such a big lesson in life--the meaning of true friends, the positive perspective, and that You are always with me (good times and bad) and that You do answer prayers! Looking back, I wouldn't change a single thing!


Tonia Hobbs said...

Still not knowing many details, you are welcome. Just remember not all confrontation is bad. And "shift change" in friends ain't always so bad either. Remember Christ is Our True-One-&-Only. He is the only sure thing and real deal. Hang in there!

SheWolf said...

You are so right girl!

Laura said...

Tara, you are so sweet and I am so blessed to have you in my life also. You came into my life during a difficult time and were there for me despite my faults. You have never judged me and like me for the person that I am and not my imperfections. I trust you also with everything I have and appreciate your friendship more than you can imagine. Love you!

SheWolf said...

Thanks Laura! You don't know what your friendship means to me! Love you!

Natalie said...

Your life seems very interesting! You are a talented writer:)